Clarity is Kindness
Some of my biggest disappointments have been when I assumed those around me understood my needs without ever communicating them. There’s a little phrase that captures my pattern and goes like this “When you assume things, it makes an ass out of u and me.” It’s a bummer but I admit that I’ve been on the wrong side of this catchphrase many times. I’ve elevated my fear of being perceived as too demanding or assertive over communicating my needs. It’s often been to my detriment and those around me. My needs remain unmet and hard feelings toward others begin to fester, turning into resentment.
This winter, I attended a training at The Circle Center in Nashville where I picked up a new phrase that’s flipped my script in life-changing ways. Here it is: Clarity is Kindness. Simple words with a big impact.Viewing the needs of myself and others through this lens has opened up new avenues for healing and wholeness.
Clear communication is the foundation to healthy relationships. When we plainly state our needs, we invite understanding and connection. In my own relationships, I’m discovering that clarity in communication fosters a sense of trust and intimacy.
Many of us, especially women, struggle with a fear of being perceived as too demanding or assertive. But assertiveness isn’t about bulldozing others; it’s about advocating for our needs while respecting the needs of others. Embracing assertiveness empowers us to be clear with others about our boundaries without feelings of guilt or shame. By clearly communicating our boundaries, we create a safe and respectful environment for ourselves and others. Setting clear boundaries is an act of self-love that makes space for honoring needs and values.
Creating a culture of clarity requires intentional effort and courage. Encouraging open and transparent communication channels allows for honest dialoge and constructive feedback. By fostering a culture of clarity in our relationships, communities, and organizations, we promote authenticity, trust, and mutual support. The impact of clarity extends beyond individual relationships. Clear communication has a ripple effect, shaping broader social dynamics and systems, fostering healthier and more inclusive environments.
Clarity in communication is not only an act of kindness towards ourselves but also towards others. When we prioritize clear and honest communication, we create space for understanding, connection, and healing in our relationships and communities.
How has fear of being perceived as too demanding or assertive impacted your ability to communicate your needs in relationships?
Can you recall a specific instance where clear communication led to a positive outcome or deeper connection with someone in your life?
What steps can you take to cultivate a culture of clarity within your relationships, communities, or workplace? How can this fostering authenticity and trust?
